Five barriers to blogging

Five barriers to blogging

I started the year with bags of energy for my blog and a whole host of ideas and posts I wanted to kick off. I started out really well, writing quite a few posts and then I did nothing last week due to so many barriers. Well that’s not entirely true as I did manage my #LivingArrows week 4 post, but I don’t class that as part of my true monthly target. And with this week set to look similar to last, I thought I’d just take a moment to rant about share some of my main barriers to blogging.

My top five barriers to blogging this week

Selling our flat

One of our top five projects for 2017 is to move house and we put our flat on the market last Monday. Luckily we had quite a number of viewings, but it took up so much time trying to keep the flat tidy and I’d totally underestimated how much effort this would take with two little ones. I’ll soon be sharing the lessons I’ve learned, but in the meantime, just imagine what it’s been like trying to tidy up toys, get a coat and shoes on one child, only for the other to start pulling out new toys. Throw in a few stop-rushing-me-mummy tantrums and you can probably see why this is my main barrier to blogging.

Finding a nanny

I’ve got 12 weeks to go before I’m due to officially start back at work after my second maternity leave (not that I’m counting) and top of my to-do list, even before figuring out what job I’m actually going back to, is to find a nanny. The good news is that I think we’ve found the perfect person, but it’s taken a lot of work doing the search and agreeing terms, not to mention getting my head around calculating the cost and all the legalities that come with becoming an employer.

Sleep training

Petit Pudding turns nine months this week and he’s still been waking up every night, sometimes twice a night, for milk. I’ve decided enough is enough. He’s not teething or ill, he gets plenty to eat during the day and I think it’s just become a habit. I’ll be sharing my top five lessons on night weaning soon, but trust me when I say it’s been pretty exhausting for everyone involved and I’ve had to go to bed earlier than normal. Why do we need so much sleep? Add it to the list of barriers for us bloggers!

Missed naps

Choupie is now two and 3 months and I fear that she’s already starting to drop her daytime nap. This week, she missed three (yes, that’s THREE barriers to blogging in just one week!) Her new thing is taking her sleeping bag off and removing her nappy if it gets wet. We’ve only just recently nailed potty training so I think she finds it confusing to wear a nappy for bed. The other day, she was singing Frère Jacques from the top of her lungs. Oh, the irony! Dormez-vous? Not likely. Many articles I’ve read say there’s often a sleep regression at around age two (I’m hoping she’s a late developer on this one!)) and that I shouldn’t drop the naps just yet. So I’m going to stick with putting her down at the usual time in the hope she’ll soon get back on track. The missed nap is such a time thief!

Cooking

I’ve written before about how hard it is to cook for my fussy eater, but since starting to wean Petit Pudding, I’ve now got two little mouths to negotiate every mealtime. Choupie is still as fussy as ever and for whatever reason, they just never seem to be hungry at the same time. This means I’ve ended up resorting to pouches rather than home-cooked meals for Petit Pudding or I’ve had to rustle up the same old tried and tested (quick) meals for Choupie.

Neither of them are getting enough vegetables or protein in them so I’m making it my mission to try and get back to basics. However, this means cooking more, which takes MORE time, MORE tidying up, and I’m really not enjoying it.  Most of the time, my healthy food gets rejected and I end up wondering why I bother. I’d love to know how people manage to look after two little kids AND cook decent meals for everyone without the kids kicking off. Some days, taking just 10 minutes to prep veg seems impossible when I have a strong willed ‘helper’ who wants to do everything with me while the other has to go ignored on the floor nearby. Seriously, if you’re reading this and you have some tips – bar chopping veg at midnight – I’d love to hear from you!

Feeling robbed

The thing I have to remember about blogging, is that it is supposed to be a hobby. So why do I get upset if a week goes by and I haven’t managed to write a post? After all, all of the above is so much more important in the grand scheme of things. I think it’s because I really want to capture what’s going on in our lives and I fear that if I don’t write it down, I may forget. It’s also the one thing that’s just for me – between the cooking, the tidying, the sleep training, the potty training and the rejected food. And ultimately, I can’t help but feel robbed when I don’t manage to create a little space for me in the week. This post is my attempt at claiming that time back. Even if it is nearly midnight and I may be up again in a few hours.

Job done, rant over.

 

What are your time thieves? I’d love to hear how you overcome barriers and claim back time
for yourself in the week

 

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  1. February 14, 2017 / 19:29

    Surprisingly finding a nanny is hard, I thought it would be easy you know a couple of interviews here and there, but when you realise this is the person that is going to be with your child most of the day you become a bit picky! So can totally relate to you on that one. Also on the sleeping thing, my son was exactly the same way and I ended up getting a sleep trainer, basically we weaned him off milk during the night and a few other nutritional recommendations for during the day, tweet me for tips! My son now has slept through from about 10 months (when we got the sleep trainer) he’s now one year old. Thanks for sharing with #stayclassymama!
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  2. February 8, 2017 / 23:40

    Thankfully N is older now, although I didn’t blog as much or in as much detail or with photography as I do now, so I didn’t find it an issue even on going back to work. But now we’ve got homework and I try and dance 2 nights a week so it’s cram it in when I can. I have turned myself into a night owl though and that’s how mine gets done. Plus this year I’ve started handwriting posts which I can do anywhere I get abit of time ( I hate using my phone). I’m so much faster with that route, so I can build up a stash of posts for whenever I need them. The only issue is going on holiday means they get used up. But it’s just a case of finding what works for you and not putting pressure on. #sharingthebloglove
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    • topfivemum
      February 8, 2017 / 16:37

      It was tough, but oh so worth it! We had another rough night last night after having a good run, but I’m sticking to my guns. The milk machine is closed! Thanks Carolina xx

  3. February 6, 2017 / 22:51

    We moved house just before Christmas and its so hard with little ones. To live in a show home is hard work! It’s hard to find the time and still have time to relax. which just never happens Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
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    • topfivemum
      February 8, 2017 / 16:37

      congratulations on moving Laura! I am definitely glad the show home days are behind us now we’ve accepted an offer!

  4. February 6, 2017 / 18:18

    It’s so hard to have a life and keep up the blogging! But if we didn’t, we’d have nothing to write about – it’s a vicious cycle! I definitely find lack of sleep the biggest one for me – it sucks all the creativity from you. Good luck with the night weaning – we went through the same stage at 9 months, ended up just going cold turkey and cutting that 3am-4am feed out, but it was really really hard going. I’m struggling with sleep at the moment too, and it’s meant I tend to head to bed at around 8.30 – usually my blogging time! I’m not getting anywhere near what I’m wanting to get done at the moment, it’s a difficult balance! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • topfivemum
      February 8, 2017 / 16:38

      I think you’ve got a good excuse for early nights at the minute Katy. Get all the sleep you can!

  5. February 5, 2017 / 20:40

    Ruth, you wrote this post just for me!! I’m so agitated that things seem to keep “getting in the way” of all I NEED (want) to write… But yes, it is a hobby and my family does come first… That’s why I am sitting here typing while my children run around playing … haha… Great read, hope you got some sleep! #globalblogging

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:17

      Glad I’m not the only one! LOL

  6. February 5, 2017 / 20:38

    My mummy feels guilty if she doesn’t post at least twice a week! Her main barrier is that she works full time, so it’s squeezing it in….plus all the linkies and promotion. Don’t be so hard on yourself x it’s quality not quantity x #marvmondays #sharingthebloglove
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    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:18

      your mummy is amazing! Blogging definitely takes up more time than people might think!

  7. February 5, 2017 / 15:20

    Oh I feel your pain with some of this! We too have just put our house up for sale so I’m trying tomconstantly keep it tidy and clean and it’s such hard work! I only have one but she’s 2 and 1 month and she took some days doesn’t have a nap which is my only blog time really. We don’t have the sleep issues at night but then she’ll get ill and is teething again and then that makes us tired and in bed early. It’s hard but if it’s just a hobby try not to worry about publishing set days etc. Just do it when you can. Hope you feel better soon! Xx #bigpinklink

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:19

      how dare they drop their naps eh? LOL I hope your daughter’s ok and you’re getting plenty of sleep at the moment x

  8. February 4, 2017 / 13:59

    You’ve got me wondering whether a slow cooker is in order as we’ve got our hands full with two. With my youngest if we get woken in the night then it’s usually just her nappy but offering just water instead of milk may work. #ablogginggoodtime

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:20

      a slow cooker sounds like a fab idea Helena! And since writing this post, we went cold turkey on the night feeds and we’ve been sleeping through for the last week. Result!

  9. February 3, 2017 / 18:29

    I totally agree,blogging is me time that keeps you feeling human! I am new to blogging but bloody loving it!#Stayclassymama

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:21

      welcome to the world of blogging Jenny. It’s amazing how quickly you can get hooked!

  10. February 3, 2017 / 16:38

    Oh I would love to hear your tips on night weaning, almost a year in and we still have the waking for feeds! #SharingtheBlogLove

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:25

      It’s hard work isn’t it Louise? I had times when I thought I was going to lose the plot from lack of sleep. I tried doing what the books advise – which was to gradually dilute the milk (so less formula to the same amount of water) but that didn’t work. I then just went cold turkey. It was 3 nights of torture – rocking then putting back to bed, more rocking… The first night took 3 hours (eek!), the second night took 1.5 hours, then night 3 was just a groan and he went back to sleep. In the last 2 weeks he woke up once very upset and wanting milk, but I repeated what I did in our cold turkey stage and he’s not woken up again since! It’s really about whether you have the strength to listen to them crying and pacing around the house in the wee hours. It’s definitely easier to just give them the milk and go back to bed. But I’m so pleased I went for short term pain to get it sorted. Let me know how you get on! Good luck lovely x

  11. February 3, 2017 / 14:30

    Ugh I can so relate. Sometimes life just gets in the way of blogging, huh?! Well done getting back on track xx

  12. February 3, 2017 / 13:21

    It is weird how blogging can go from a hobby to a chore. I have also felt like I’ve been struggling for writing time as I’ve been working 4 days filling in for a sick colleague. I found myself Writing until late last night too. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:26

      it’s amazing how much you can fit into the day when you really want to, eh? I hope you aren’t having too many late nights xx

  13. February 2, 2017 / 22:58

    You sound really busy no wonder you haven’t been able to get the time to blog. I am my own worst enemy when it comes to making time to do things as I am so bad at being organised. But this week we’ve had holidays on in work so my 2 days I set aside for blogging have been reduced to one and now I’m so behind! #bigpinklink
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    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:27

      I hope you are managing to catch up Tracey!

  14. Louise Pink Pear Bear
    February 2, 2017 / 21:10

    Oh give yourself time! I was barely doing anything when my two were that age, It’s only now they are older and with school and preschool that I have any time for anything!! Thanks for popping by the #bigpinklink

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:28

      it’s funny isn’t it because this is the age when I feel I have so many things I want to write about, yet it’s the period I have so little time to do it. Just trying to burn every memory on my brain instead of on paper xx

  15. February 2, 2017 / 09:53

    I’ve had a bit of a similar week this week; I feel like I’ve dropped all of my blogging balls! But I don’t suppose it matters to have a blip once in a while, and at least it’s meant that you can write this post! #KCACOLS
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  16. February 2, 2017 / 00:21

    Our house has been up for sale too and I totally relate to trying to keep it tidy with two little ones. It was exhuasting. Luckily we’re now under offer so hopefully I don’t have to worry about it so much now.

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:29

      congratulations Jenna! We’re also under offer now, hallelujah!

  17. February 1, 2017 / 21:53

    I can totally relate to this and I’m not moving house and I don’t have a baby. My youngest has just decided she wants to drop her nap though and that’s two hours a day gone in a puff of smoke, now I’m so far behind it’s like I’m chasing my tail!
    #GlobalBlogging
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    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:29

      Oh no! I hope you manage to get a bit of a break in the day my lovely xx

  18. February 1, 2017 / 15:18

    Oh no! MIssed naps are no fun! That’s supposed to be your time! Good luck with the sale of the flat. x
    #bigpinklink

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:29

      thanks Lucy

  19. January 31, 2017 / 02:04

    Always ensure the blog serves you and not the other way round

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:30

      great advice! That’s what it was there for in the first place!

  20. January 31, 2017 / 00:32

    I feel the same ifbmy blogging time gets stolen. Anything that keeps one’s sense of self going becomes like a little life raft in that turbulent sea of motherhood doesn’t it? #bigpinklink

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:31

      you’ve totally nailed it Lucy. It’s exactly that – my blog is my little piece of much needed me-time. Thanks for dropping by to offer your support xx

  21. January 30, 2017 / 23:27

    my biggest barrier is trying to do everything blog related while the baby is sleeping, I also have to cook, rest, sleep, etc somedays I feel like there is not enough hours in a day. when I get overwhelmed I usually take a break from blogging & go out maybe for dinner with my husband or catch up with friends #globalblogging

    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:31

      there’s definitely not enough hours in the day since having kids. Well done on making time to just go out and have fun!

  22. January 30, 2017 / 22:41

    Ahh I definitely fear the time coming when the nap is dropped, I hope it is just a little regression for you and that things are soon back to normal! I stress about food sometimes too, it is so hard to fit everything in each day as it is, I don’t like to spend too much time prepping meals. Do you have a slow cooker? I try to slow cook at least a few meals a week that feed all of us – I can serve the boys’ meal at 5pm and then mine and my husband’s later on. #bigpinklink
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    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:32

      What a brilliant idea Gemma! I’m going to look into a slow cooker. It may just save us!

  23. January 30, 2017 / 22:17

    Oh gosh yes I can completely relate! There’s always something else to do and those blog posts don’t write themselves unfortunately! #marvmondays
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    • topfivemum
      February 6, 2017 / 00:33

      Thanks for dropping by and I hope you’re also managing to fit some time in for your blog xx

  24. January 30, 2017 / 22:17

    I can relate to many of these. I have a 7 month old that doesn’t like sleep! I’m trying to write blog posts on my phone whilst feeding! #marvmondays

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