Baby weight: I lost it once, I can do it again

Baby weight: I lost it once, I can do it again

There are a lot of things I can relate to when it comes to pregnancy. The puffy ankles, the bad back, the heightened senses and mood swings to name a few. But when it comes to morning sickness and loss of appetite, I’m completely stumped. In both my pregnancies, all I wanted to do was eat!

Whereas pre-pregnancy I’d always eaten healthily, exercised regularly and maintained a stable weight, I suddenly couldn’t stand the smell of cooked vegetables, fish or meat. All I wanted was pasta, cheese and cake (and ice cream and hot chocolate…). I’m educated enough to know that I should have been eating better than I was, but I just couldn’t help myself. Needless to say, I put on about 20kgs (44lbs) during both my pregnancies (that’s a third of my noInfographic - things that sabotage my dietrmal body weight!) and was faced with the prospect of having to diet, when I’d never really had to before.

Both times, people reassured me that I looked great, that the weight would soon ‘drop off’ after giving birth. But let’s face it, we all know most babies only weigh 6-8lbs so I knew I’d have a mammoth task on my hands to get back to my pre-pregnancy self, if such a thing was even possible.

After my first pregnancy, I managed to lose all but 2kgs of my excess baby weight (15kgs) within nine months. I tackled it sensibly without completely depriving myself, which meant hitting the gym three times a week, cutting back on bread and pasta, but still allowing myself a few treats and G&Ts on a weekend. It seemed to take forever, but I believed in the process (eat less, exercise more) and eventually it disappeared by the summer.

And then, bam! I fell pregnant with our second baby and started to pile the weight straight back on again. You’d have thought I’d have learnt my lesson the first time around, right?

Not long after having my second baby, I wrote a post about how the diet could wait, but here I am, six months later, and I’m starting to get fed up of feeling frumpy and wearing the same old baggy clothes. Not only that, I fear that if I don’t tackle the weight now, I probably never will, and I refuse to spend next summer with chafing thighs and bingo wings while my pretty sundresses lay abandoned at the bottom of my wardrobe.

The good news is that I’ve managed to shift some weight just by running around after an 18 month old and a newborn and having little time to eat. But this isn’t a healthy or sustainable way to go about it, so I’ve started to focus on my diet this past month and I’m getting back into the gym a few nights a week. And in doing so, my focus has actually shifted. I’m no longer fixated on what the scales say, as I can tell just by the fit of my clothes if I’m making progress. And having spent those first four to five months in a sleep deprived and slightly depressed state (which I recognise now), I actually feel like the old me is starting to come back. I love the way I feel after exercise and it makes me more likely to make healthy choices the next day. But more importantly than that, I’ve discovered that I actually NEED this time to myself.

When you’re constantly running after two under two, stuck at home all afternoon as a slave to naps and feeds, it can feel quite lonely and isolating. Knowing that I can escape the house for a hour or so – and have a shower on my own! – does wonders for the mind, body and soul at the end of a challenging day. Whenever I falter about going to the gym, I tell myself to just go for ten minutes. By the time I’m there and start moving, I always end up doing a full workout. And progress is progress, no matter how small. It may take me another six months to shift the last 8kgs I’d like to lose, but that’s ok. Because, wobbly bits or no wobbly bits, I’m starting to like myself again, and that’s all that matters.

How has your view of your body changed since having a baby? I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

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  1. November 16, 2016 / 13:35

    I agree exercising makes me feel better and want to eat healthier the next day, although the following day I’m back to mint chip ice cream lol. I think everything in moderation is key, it helps for me to know that a little here and there is okay. You are my hero for having two under two, I can imagine what it must feel like the first five months, nobody really talks about how lonely it can be sometimes thank you for your honest. And thanks for sharing with #GlobalBlogging!

    • topfivemum
      November 21, 2016 / 23:03

      We all have our vices don’t we? Ice cream sounds perfect to me! I’m not sure about the hero bit. Insane more like LOL

  2. November 13, 2016 / 14:28

    I put on close to 26 kgs with both my pregnancies, but always managed to loose all of it. I am now pregnant again and I must admit I am feeling rather “porky” about it! I put on weight before I fell pregnant and now I feel like I will have DOUBLE to loose… I’m not looking forward to it! I will be honest…. Thanks for linking up! #globalblogging

    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:06

      It’s amazing what our bodies can do isn’t it? Losing 26kgs is no easy feat, so well done! Everyone tells you to not worry about the weight when you’re pregnant but I think it’s normal when you’re used to seeing yourself a certain way. How exciting that you’re expecting your third! I hope you’re having a good pregnancy xx

  3. November 13, 2016 / 10:25

    I weighed myself throughout both my previous pregnancies but haven’t this time around – I’ll worry about it afterwards! #marvmondays
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    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:06

      that’s such a better way to look at it! Like you say, no point worrying about it – plenty of other things to focus on right now and that’s such exciting news! I hope your pregnancy is going well xx

  4. November 11, 2016 / 15:50

    I’ve only had the one baby – but can definitely relate to this post. I think it’s easy to put off the weight loss and hard to get back into that mind set of doing something for you after having a baby. It sounds like you’re making great steps – keep it up!
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    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:10

      Thanks Jade. Getting there slowly but surely. 9 months on, 9 months off as they say… (although Christmas may get in the way of that plan LOL!)

    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:11

      I’m with you on that one Erica! Nine months of abstinence during pregnancy means I struggle to give that up too! I’d never refuse a G&T!

  5. November 11, 2016 / 13:02

    Ya it’s impossible to get to a gym unless you are willing to go at 6am or 8pm which I personally am not. Being home all day means snacks are readily available – it’s a tough one! lol Thank you for sharing with us at #BloggerClubUK x

    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:12

      Oh yes, the dreaded toddler snacks! We’ve been guilty of raiding the snack drawer of Pom Bears to accompany our G&T on a Friday night. So much so that I’ve just given up and throw a packet of Kettle Chips (or two) into our weekly shop now! LOL

  6. November 10, 2016 / 11:55

    Aww its so difficult isn’t it! I didn’t put on any weight through pregnancy with Mia but after I had her I put on about a stone and just wasn’t happy. Its taken me almost 2 years to feel myself again and we have started talking about having another baby which fills me with dread as (selfishly) I don’t want to put on weight again!

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    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:18

      I definitely felt like that Becca when we decided to go for another baby, especially after I’d just lost it all from first time around. I don’t think it’s being selfish at all – our little people may be the biggest things in our lives but we still have needs of our own. I hope the new baby discussions are going ok. Such a big decision and you’ll know in your heart of hearts what’s right for you. Good luck lovely xx

  7. November 9, 2016 / 20:49

    I think I’ve always been overweight and unhealthy but I did really well after my first and then after my second I started ok but nibbling constantly and eating through my PND has meant that I piled on the weight. I then joined a new gym on their 8 week boot camp and lost loads of weight but that was last year and gradually I started ditching more and more classes but I will be getting back on it because I genuinely felt so good about myself when I’d lost weight. Thanks for being a part of the #bigpinklink
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    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:19

      When you’re down and tired it’s so easy to nibble (especially when toddler snacks are so easy to hand!) Well done on the boot camp! It may be something for me to try in the new year. As let’s face it, I’m not going to be dieting in December LOL xx

  8. November 9, 2016 / 10:50

    Hats off to you! Keep on doing what you’re doing what a mama (: #BloggersClubUK

    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:19

      thank you!

  9. November 8, 2016 / 22:11

    I’m impressed you can manage to get yourself to the gym with two young children. I really need to do something to improve my weight and fitness but struggling to find the time (or the motivation if I’m honest!!)

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    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:21

      Haha don’t be fooled! It’s the appeal of the shower and being on my own that gets me there Beth!

  10. November 8, 2016 / 16:34

    The changes that a woman’s body goes through after childbirth are not for the faint of the heart! I have had to do a total attitude change about my body. At first, I would look at the hanging wrinkly skin on my tummy (from a 55 lb weight gain during my pregnancy with twins) as a disaster zone. Then I determined that I should be proud of what that hanging skin means. It’s a badge of honor!

    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:28

      You’re so right Carolina! Our bodies have produced humans for goodness sake! We deserve an Olympic medal LOL

  11. November 8, 2016 / 11:05

    Good for you! You can definitely do it, but like you say you have to be sensible about it. I managed it twice but it did take a lot of effort, or at least focus. I’m not a gym lover at all but I did go swimming once a week and would really push myself. I agree with what you say about the scales. I try not to weigh myself otherwise I can become a little obsessed. Instead I know how my clothes fit so they are a very good guide. It also took 2 children to stop focusing on the clothes size. I can go from a size 8 to a size 14 depending on what shop I buy the clothes from. Quite frankly my hips haven’t expanded that much between walking from one establishment to the other. As long as the clothes physical fit and don’t cling or hang if they aren’t meant to I’m happy.
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    • topfivemum
      November 15, 2016 / 17:29

      It’s so true that once you’ve got kids you just don’t focus on the clothes size any more. I definitely go more by how I feel than how much I weigh now. It’s just not as important to me as it may have once been.

  12. November 7, 2016 / 21:58

    It must have been really frustrating to know you weren’t able to do much to avoid weight gain because it made you feel unwell to eat the healthy stuff. I remember how daunting it was trying to get my fitness back after my daughter. To have done it once and now be starting the challenge again is a big step. But well done for getting back to the gym and getting that time for yourself both physically and mentally. You are absolutely right to avoid scales and focus on your clothes; For starters muscle weighs more than fat so you might not see much weight loss but it’s because you’re toning and building strength.

    Good luck on your journey back to yourself. Sounds like you’ve got a great mindset now so I’m sure you’ll get there! #MarvMondays
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    • topfivemum
      November 8, 2016 / 00:58

      Thanks so much for the encouragement Angela.

  13. November 7, 2016 / 18:02

    Drink is definitely my downfall so I try to only have a couple of drinks at the weekend and limit treats til then too. It’s all about moderation though so being good in the week means you can have gin and a bacon sarnie at the weekend. Thanks for linking up for #marvmondays
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    • topfivemum
      November 8, 2016 / 00:59

      I’m curious Fran. Do you have your gin & bacon sarnie together for breakfast on a weekend? LOL

  14. November 7, 2016 / 09:44

    I laughed at the cheese sandwiches, I LOVE cheese. I was actually very lucky with my five and lost the weight very quickly due to a fast metabolism and lucky genes, I do appreciate how lucky I was though as I have watched all of my friends diet for months to lose their baby weight. I think it’s always important to be kind to yourself and remember how amazing our bodies are, and how amazing we are as women. And I completely get how tiring two under two is, I had three babies in two years and I doubt I’ll ever really recover from that!! #MarvMondays

    • topfivemum
      November 8, 2016 / 01:02

      My hubby’s French so I definitely can’t escape cheese in our house LOL. I can’t imagine three babies in two years. AND you have an amazing blog, so that makes another baby! I totally agree on being kind to yourself. Our bodies are pretty damn amazing for producing humans aren’t they?!

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